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Today's mood is sort of jiwang2 hehe..So i was thinking to write about a relationship in another side of view.When we talk about love,people will give different opinions about it and usually their first impression about love is mostly similar--Hurtful.Really?Is that what you think?Tell me what you think.Okay..Back to the subject,when ones are asked about their impressions, i believe the first thing that came across to their mind before giving in their answers are their recent bad relationship.That is why, i supposed, they said love is hurtful.I believe all of us ever been in a relationship and it surely matured us in many ways, a lesson learned indeed.Love can never hurt ones who are in love.No..That is just not the way it is.But why?What's the problem?

To some people, the problem that occurs to them is money problem, third party problem(this can be either from both sides and/or also the parents' involvement), communication poblem and many more problems to be listed here.These problems somehow interrelated to one another in a way.Can you believe that?Relationship can be the most complicated matter in the universe.Men can never understand women.Never can, yes no sir, and never will..So my aim is to make you guys out there to understand the so-called complexity side of a woman.Are you ready?

1. Quality time.When you are spending your quality time with your girlfriend make sure you do not involve 'friends' in it.That's why we called it quality time together.Especially when you are in a long-distance relationship.Do i have to explain?Okay for one thing,you seldom met your girlfriend and you only got the chance like for few days.Appreciate it.

2. Communication.Like i said communication is the most basic important thing in a relationship.Always communicate with your partner.Tell her what's in your mind.It's not that hard, isn't it?The relationship soon gonna be dead due to the lack of communication.

3.Attention.Attention guys..attention!Women always need attention for heaven sake.So give them what they want i.e. attention.Give a little time of yours to her, show her that you care.Sometimes the word 'i love you' just not enough.So what if you love her if you left her out from your cirlce?She needs to feel needed--that you need her.Seriously, this factor always become the major probem in every relationship and this is huge factor why your partner is cheated on you,somehow(not only women but also men).Just because you cannot give them this tiny littlest thing for her.Of course the girl has no intention at all to cheat her boyfriend but when she needs someone to talk to the boyfriend was busy with his own thing.At the same time his place is inevitably replace by another guy who care her as much as he does.This guy listen to her, understand her, and most importantly...he communicates with her.Of course you don't want this to happen right?We all deserve to be happy.

4.Coax.Women always go sulky sometimes with no reason.Assume that you have a little argument with your girlfriend.At the end of the argument you apologised and asked her if everything isokay between you two.A gentle reminder, when she said 'I'm okay' never believe her.Guys..when we said we are okay the fact is we are not okay.Not at all.Bare in mind!Don't you just walk away from the scene happily, pretending nothing has happened.So when we said 'I'm okay' that's is where you play your part--charm us.The best way i think is by admitting all your fault.That's a good start.Simiarly, when we're quiet or ignore you,ask us (your girlfriend) what is wrong and give us the attention that we demand respectively.Also when we try to walk away from you especially in the heat of argument, follow us. Try to grab our hand and don't ever let go when we push or hit you(ala..pukul2 manja).Then we star to curse you guys and give names.Again, persuade us and let us hear all the magical words i.e. you tell your girlfriend that you love her.

5.Be sensitive.It's your girlfriend for god sake!Men need to learn how to jaga perasaan of their women.You guys are really poor at this part.Be a good listener especially when she is feeling down.When you see your girlfriend start crying, hold her and tell her that everything that will be alright.Your girlfriend need to hear all this kata-kata hikmah.Simple isn't it?It's not that hard actually.

6.Doubt.Oh hoho..it's a tiny simple word with a strong meaning.Guys,we ONLY have doubts when we sense something fishy is going on.We won't accuse our boyfriend for nothing.To have doubts sometimes could kill a healthy relationship in a blink of an eye.If this ever occur to you(not only men but also women), back yourself up.Explain the situation--what, how and why.If she's not buying it, well you may ask your friend to back you up huhu...The important note here is, convince and reassure your girlfriend over and over and over and over again(until your girlfriend sick and tired hearing all this huhu)


Overall, im not an expert okay.It's just that...i just wanna share my opinions with all of you based on my experience and what i've heard from someone i know.We have committed stupid mistakes in the past relationship.We lose 'em.We certainly don't want to lose on what we already have now, right?And we absolutely don't want to repeat that stupid mistake over and over again with the same stupid ending.Love is so beautiful as a matter of fact.It's just that people are so dumb to learn or to appreciate the love that they have now.Appreciate your loved one people.Your family, friends, cousins, kekasih angkat,tunang angkat, whoever he/she is.


p/s: i strongly forbid the so-called forbidden love(the "kekasih angkat" etc).jangan kacau hak orang..berdosa meruntuhkan surau(unmarried couple) and masjid (married couple) orang.