Renungan Bersama..

A friend of mine sent me a very interesting email and i would love to share this particular email with you. Very touching story..I shed tears..Salam dan selawat ke atas junjungan nabi kita Nabi Muhammad SAW.Sempena maulidur rasul ani, harap-harap tani akan dapat syafaat dari baginda dan rahmat dari Allah SWT.Semoga tani semua sentiasa dilindungi oleh Allah SWT.Amin..



AIR MATA RASULULLAH SAW

Tiba-tiba dari luar pintu terdengar seorang yang berseru mengucapkan salam.
"Bolehkah saya masuk?" tanyanya. Tapi Fatimah tidak mengizinkannya masuk,
"Maafkanlah, ayahku sedang demam," kata Fatimah yang membalikkan badan dan

menutup pintu.
Kemudian ia kembali menemani ayahnya yang ternyata sudah membuka mata dan
bertanya pada Fatimah, "Siapakah itu wahai anakku?" "Tak tahulah ayahku,
orang sepertinya baru sekali ini aku melihatnya," tutur Fatimah lembut.
Lalu, Rasulullah menatap puterinya itu dengan pandangan yang menggetarkan.
Seolah-olah bahagian demi bahagian wajah anaknya itu hendak dikenang.
"Ketahuilah, dialah yang menghapuskan kenikmatan sementara, dialah yang
memisahkan pertemuan di dunia. Dialah malaikatul maut," kata Rasulullah,
Fatimah pun menahan ledakkan tangisnya. Malaikat maut datang menghampiri,
tapi Rasulullah menanyakan kenapa Jibril tidak ikut sama menyertainya.
Kemudian dipanggilah Jibril yang sebelumnya sudah bersiap di atas langit
dunia menyambut ruh kekasih Allah dan penghulu dunia ini. "Jibril, jelaskan
apa hakku nanti di hadapan Allah?" Tanya Rasululllah dengan suara yang amat
lemah. "Pintu-pintu langit telah terbuka, para malaikat telah menanti ruhmu.

Semua syurga terbuka lebar menanti kedatanganmu," kata Jibril. Tapi itu
ternyata tidak membuatkan Rasulullah lega, matanya masih penuh kecemasan.

"Engkau tidak senang mendengar khabar ini?" Tanya Jibril lagi. "Khabarkan
kepadaku bagaimana nasib umatku kelak?" "Jangan khawatir, wahai Rasul Allah,
aku pernah mendengar Allah berfirman kepadaku: 'Kuharamkan syurga bagi siapa
saja, kecuali umat Muhammad telah berada di dalamnya," kata Jibril.

Detik-detik semakin dekat, saatnya Izrail melakukan tugas. Perlahan ruh
Rasulullah ditarik. Nampak seluruh tubuh Rasulullah bersimbah peluh,
urat-urat lehernya menegang. "Jibril, betapa sakit sakaratul maut ini."

Perlahan Rasulullah mengaduh. Fatimah terpejam, Ali yang di sampingnya
menunduk semakin dalam dan Jibril memalingkan muka. "Jijikkah kau melihatku,
hingga kau palingkan wajahmu Jibril?" Tanya Rasulullah pada Malaikat
pengantar wahyu itu. "Siapakah yang sanggup, melihat kekasih Allah direnggut
ajal," kata Jibril. Sebentar kemudian terdengar Rasulullah mengaduh, karena
sakit yang tidak tertahankan lagi. "Ya Allah, dahsyat nian maut ini,
timpakan saja semua siksa maut ini kepadaku, jangan pada umatku. "Badan
Rasulullah mulai dingin, kaki dan dadanya sudah tidak bergerak lagi.

Bibirnya bergetar seakan hendak membisikkan sesuatu, Ali segera mendekatkan
telinganya. "Uushiikum bis shalati, wa maa malakat aimanukum - peliharalah
shalat dan peliharalah orang-orang lemah di antaramu." Di luar pintu tangis
mulai terdengar bersahutan, sahabat saling berpelukan. Fatimah menutupkan
tangan di wajahnya, dan Ali kembali mendekatkan telinganya ke bibir
Rasulullah yang mulai kebiruan. "Ummatii, ummatii, ummatiii?" - "Umatku,
umatku, umatku"

Dan, berakhirlah hidup manusia mulia yang memberi sinaran itu. Kini,
mampukah kita mencintai sepertinya? Allahumma sholli 'ala Muhammad wa baarik
wa salim 'alaihi Betapa cintanya Rasulullah kepada kita.

Bloggers

First of all, i have no intention at all to have my own blog.I often asked people why did they created blogs what shall you put in your blog once you created it and i get the same answer from them... 'Saja2...Mana saja kau'(-_-").Haish..

So why do i wanna have or create a blog?It looks fun*LOL* especially when you put all your pictures where all people can see it.Nowadays, blogging seems popular and gets attention among the society all over the world.Me myself i learn creating this blog from one of my student, Atykah Aura.Much thanks!I've always wanted to read Thai blog and guess what, all the entries were written in Thais.Rasa buta huruf lah sekajap hehe..Pilipinas blog..Erm..I havent try yet..Susah kan cari..

Okay..What im trying to say here is no matter who you are--a doctor, a lawyer, a student, a clerk etc--the only thing that makes you different from the others(i mean your blog) is the intention or objective of your blog.What's your purpose for blogging?And i've seen a huge dissimilarity between Bruneian and Malaysian bloggers.I would love to give my personal opinion here but err..i rather not hohoho..Rumputnya, i prefer to read the latter one because if they commented on/about something which normally based on the actual event(issues) are logic(well some of them) and make sense.This is only what i think lah..

What are their dissimilarities?Lots...

Blog 'Kitani'

1) Kalau kitani punya blog banyak cakap pasal their activities(which is certainly okay coz it's their blog right?They can write whatever they wanna write/say) as if their blog atu their diaries hohoho..

2) Food.Food and food(i know lah orang Brunei ani memang inda dapat dipisahkan dari makanan..Qisya pun have a strong passion for food jua huhu..).Normally they cited about local dishes and few were commenting about international cuisines yang ada branch in our country.

3)They put lots and lots of pcitures..(This is the only reason that makes me wanna have a blog of my own.Huh!)

4) They are also some of them that truly love Brunei and try to expose the nature beauty of our country to the outside world.Next time i'll do the same jua lah..I have lots of ideas on what to write here in my blog but then i am too lazy to do that hehehe..

Blog 'Jiran' Kitani

1) Most of them are political observer(like me hohoho..Im half Malaysian.So yeah..Undi jgn nda undi).Then masing2 commenting, judging and criticizing other political parties and the party that they support also lah.This scene continue sampai arah FB.Memang siuklah membaca komen2 durang yang 'menghentam' each other ani hahaha...There's this party that i really hate since i was in MD.Too radical!Benci mak nyah..Aww!

2)Berbicara mengenai Islam..Walaupun macam2 isu we heard dari 'jiran' tani ani especially if you guys read Mastika lagi tsk tsk tsk*sambil geleng2 kepala* tapi masih ada jua lagi segelintir di kalangan masyarakat durang ani yang berpegang kuat kepada syiar Islam dan secara tidak langsung berdakwah(memang patut 'didakwah' jua orang2 Islam ani termasuk Qisya sekali*lol*)

3)Generally speaking, mengenai isu semasa.Well they have 13 states with the current population of 27 millions.They sure have lots of things to talk about huhu..

Im not criticizing anybody whatsoever.Im just telling you of what i think and what i've observed.Tu je..Peace~

The Distance Love

*Note: This story has been edited several times before it is publish publicly.To my soulmate,i love you dearly.Thank you for loving me and understanding me especially when im emo huhu..Though we are apart, i never fail to forget you not even a milisecond.Wherever i go, whatever i do you're always here in my heart...To all lovers out there, have faith in your relationship despite of the distance and appreciate you loved ones.Once they're gone, they'll be gone for good and by that time it is too late for you to regret.

I was staring at my laptop, thinking of what to write.My mood right now is more to romantic, so i guess saga it is.I think most readers already knew that im in a long distance relationship as we speak.And im pretty sure that some of you(well you know who you are*wink*) are keen to know how we met.It's quite embarassing though hahaha..

For a start, I think i did mentioned it in my previous entry how skeptical i am about relationship as a result from my past experience.Lesson learned, really.It takes me quite some time to be in a relationship again.I turned many guys down(not to brag and im not proud of it as well) on account that i don't want to hurt them and took them for granted.Life goes on.Without him, even so, everything went accordingly and normally.I intentionally kept myself busy for 24 hours.After i broke up with my ex, it seems that my rezeki had becoming more extravorted.I bought a new car for myself(Honda City) in August 2007,convenient for me to commute and go to uni and in April 2008 i have successfully established a small business and with proud im telling you that im the founder of RMTS.Of course on your journey to success you gotta faced many obstacles.Honestly my own mother questioned my ability and look down on me.She thinks im inexperience.That's where she's wrong.I have seen many things,meet people and myself began teaching (only as a part time job) since i was 19.I am self-reliant and i have always work hard.My next target is buying myself a house.It gonna takes quite some times coz we're talking about 6 figures here huhu..Back to the story, alhamdulilah..Rezeki Allah..I have proved them that they were wrong,especially mi(my) mother.Everything went smoothly.Since its establishment i was freakin' busy handling RMTS, managing staff and students, meeting parents and all.It's even more chaotic when few of my teachers gone to Mekkah for haj, i was short-handed of teachers at that time.At last, i took over the classes myself(i remember i handle about 9 classes or so single-handedly.Memang expert!).And it was Ramadhan, imagine how hectic it was!I talked to one of the sisters(the teachers that went to Mekkah are sisters) and asked her to pray for me as well when she's at Mekkah(biasalah doa sukses dalam pelajaran and perniagaan, murah rezeki and yang paling penting ditemukan Tuhan jodoh yang baik).My mother always said that orang baik jodohnya pun orang baik2.InsyaAllah..Why do i bother to tell you about all this?Coz personally i think it is related.I don't know.I let you be the judge..Shall we continue?

Time flies so fast.Somewhere in late October, on one night, i went out with my colleague.Fyi, both of us memang kaki internet hahaha..Good times..So normally we lepak at this mamak stall in Jerudong until late at night(2-3pm) and we're the only girls who were hanging out at that restaurant.Now i already have internet at home so i don't have to go to the cyber cafe or a place that got wifi huhu..As usual, if already depan laptop memang tak ingat dunia langsung huhu..Checked my email, Facebook and one of my social networking account(i can't state it here, to protect my privacy).Then there's this guy send me a message asking me how am i doing and everything.At first im not really interested in him but then it turns out that our conversation had becoming more and more exciting.I was intrigued.He impressed me.By how?He speaks fluent English.Basically, that's how i evaluate a person if ones an educated(please don't misjudge me.no offence but not every educated persons are able to speak good English nor fluently and im not saying that my English is good whatsoever.Im a learner, trust me) or vice versa.Come on lah, it's a social network so everybody could just impressed anybody.Anyhow, i look up upon educated people(not rich people.Bleegh!).So as we conversed, i asked him where did he study.He told me he studied at one of the uni in Sabah(im not sure how many uni Sabah has huhu...) and he's a scientist.Oh my bad..I failed to mention earlier that he's from Malaysia.Which part of Malaysia?He's from Peninsular(Kay EL).

Ever since then we were keeping in touch via this social networking site and every single day i feel much and much closer to him.It feels like i've known him for ages!This connection between me and him somehow has brighten my day and i started to have a crush on him.I went online everyday and checked my inbox wishing to see his name in my inbox.When i didn't,i felt depressingly sad.Negative thoughts running through my head because i couldn't see him eye to eye, in other words physically.Frankly i enjoy on what we had and all the time that we have 'spent together', that's when i realised my feelings for him are intact and growing as day goes by.My hearts says that i need this guy in my life.Stupid isn't it?I never met this guy in my entire life.Practically we are strangers.I pray to God and tell Him that i need this guy in my life so please, please, please do not take him away from me.The feelings i had for him is so pure, so real and so true.My feelings telling me that he felt that way too.The feelings slowly developed into somewhat people would called love.I know it's pretty early to say that i love him but yeah, that's what i feel for him..deep deep inside my heart.I remember one time he couldn't replied my message, i cried just because he's name was not in my inbox(awww..hehe).Silly me huhu..I don't know why but you eventually becoming dumber when you're in love hahaha..I said so coz you tend to do all the things that you never done before, sometimes things that you can barely think of or capable of doing it.Anyway, this keeping-in-touch stuff went on for about a month or so, before we began exchanging phone numbers.In the morning next day, as i woke up i soon reached my handphone.I have one incoming message.I was feeling nervous and my heart beating so fast but it did put a smile on my face.I retrieved it and i can't tell you how happily excited i am when i saw the unknown number in my inbox says 'Hi'.I was jumping crazily on my bed screaming excitedly*LOL*.I replied his text right away.He said he called me on my Digi line but left unanswered and he did tried calling me at my DST line but can't get through.That's was the starting point where we keep in touch everyday.When he's in Sabah he often called me coz the rate is quite cheap but when he's in KL he did call me but not so often.Maybe once in every two weeks.It depends.Seldomly we chat at YM if both of us are free.I did asked him to video call me once in a blue moon but he said he need to activate it first.So lazy to argue with that guy(-_-")

As i mention in my previous entry, it is extremely hard to maintain a long distance relationship.In fact, before him, i fail to believe that long distance relationship might (or would) work.Trust me, at the early stage of our relationship i never think that we'd gonna last until today.As a matter fact, during the first 5--6 months we argue alot.That's because im thinking negatively about him.That's all.And sometimes it's only because of a small matter(he said that not me).When it comes to a relationship that is your loved ones, there is no such thing as small matter.Everything matters to me.That is only because i care.You know what he said?"You're just like my mother"(quoted from him).Oh yes..He is quite younger than me.It feels like a sort of trend lah nowadays where younger boys fall in love with mature ladies.Even so, he's quite mature from his age.I admit that sometimes i did asked for his opinion.He can be a teaser.He knows very well that i have a thing with his 'first wife' a.k.a futsal.I labeled it as his 'first wife' because he often plays futsal.Oh yes, did i mention that we fell in love before we set our eyes onto one another?He always send me a text message saying 'I knew i love you before i met you..', (song by Savage Garden ) until today and it never bores me.He's a shy guy.But trust me, he's very lah manja to the max and very romantic hehehe...Yes romantic..He does love to romance and sweet talk me.If i 'complained' about it to him he just laughed.Sometimes i teased him whom indulging with whom actually hohoho..

Alas, eight months later we had the chance to meet each other's eyes, a week just before my birthday.Nervous?Naah...Him?Like hell*LOL* and he barely sleep 'cause he said he afraid he might overslept hahaha..I can tell that he was excited about our meeting soon.He text me early in the morning.Unfortunately we only have the chance of seeing each other for less than 24 hours.Sad?Absolutely.In fact i encountered quite few ordeals in a single day,on the day where i laid my eyes on him alone.Meeting him today,flying back to Brunei the next day.Im grateful that he totally could understand my situation that time(honestly he always understand me in whatever situation).He still contact me until today(if he didn't he'll be dead) and he's one of the bestest friend i ever had beside my mom*wink*.Though the first meeting was quite brief,it eventually strengthen our bonds.Most essentially i get to know him even better.But i guess the second meeting was even better hehe...Four months later that was in December 2009,we made a plan to see each other.Again, obstacles..But it never brings me down huhu..I got problem with my plane ticket.It was school holiday and Christmas season so seat was mostly fully booked.I had booked the ticket earlier and there was an available seat for myself.My sisters wanted to go with me but in the end they changed their mind so i have to rearrange the date and everything back again.I was told that my flight would be on December 23rd but it was not confirmed yet but the aunty(the ticketing person) asked me to pack my things earlier just to be prepared in case there was an empty seat so i could hurriedly off to the airport without wasting anymore time huhu..On the December 23rd i couldn't sleep well.As i woke up early i began to pack few things up.My mom also got worried cause she hadn't received any calls or sms from her.So we decide to go to her office.I went to her office and dicussed about the date blablabla..I told her it's important for me to be there in KK tomorrow cause it's his birthday.You know when it is your birthday it is not always about you but sometimes its about the people around you how they wanted to make you happy and to make sure that you have the bestest birthday ever.Later in the afternoon aroud 5pm i received a message saying that my flight(RBA) was already been confirmed and im going to KK tomorrow.I was so excited.Again, i jumped on my bed hahaha..Sheesh, i don't know why i always doing it.Im 24 years old for God sake hahaha..So i packed my clothes, shoes, accessories and other necessary things.Im so excited!Can't wait to see him and gave him his birthdat present hehe..I can't wait to see how he would react when he opens it.

To cut the long story short, i have safely landed in Kota Kinabalu.Oh how i miss KK so much..It's good to see KK city again, especially all the shopping complexes.Can't wait to go to One Borneo,Warisan, Palm Square etc.Oh yeah, im not proud telling you all this but im a shopaholic(not the chronic one huhu but i seriously cannot handle alot of cash.In fact i ever spend RM3k in a day(in Miri, Sarawak), a 'small gift' given by my grandmother(mother side).I sort of regret it though.I should have spend it in KK.KK have more branded goodies than in Miri huhu..Im off from the topic again.My bad..I did text him last night not to be late and worst make me waiting.As im far-sighted i took out my glasses and wore it.There he was, waiting for me passionately hehe..He's wearing blue/black stripe long sleeves with black trousers.Aaah..It's good to see him again.I feel like i wanna hug him right away despite of the crowds of people at the airport.Seeing him acting so cool somehow makes me very lah sakit hati huh!On the way to his car he said he missed me.Waah~Im walking on the air(literally huhu)..I thought you never do:( I ordered him to book me a hotel because im pretty sure many Bruneians went to KK as it was school holiday.Im afraid most hotels were fully booked.In the car, i only remain quiet.He do the talking most of the time hahaha..He's very talkative.Sometimes i feel so lazy to layan him, i just nodded and shrugged hehehe..(Nah kedapatan tia hahaha).There's one time he was mad at me because, as he claimed, i was not listening and paying attention to him.Oh yes, one more thing..Despite of our distance, we always argue*chuckle* Come to think about it again, it is funny*lol*.Even my mum know about this as well and guess who does she put the blame on?Me.Yeah..ME..They sure sayang him than me(include my dad).But one thing i like about us is in the end we always say sorry, inspite of who was wrong.Beside of saying sorry he always say 'Thank you' as well, showing his appreciation to me.It sure means alot to me.

We've spent alot of time together.He spoiled me so much and treated me like a princess.He even bought me an anniversary gift, a pair of shoes which cost RM200.Have you ever heard of Eclipse?Nice boutique.I reckon you to go there.Oh...We even argue wahahaha..That's what i 'like' about us the most, never missed an arguement in a month despite of our distance huhu..I still remember he said,"What's with the long face?"*LOL*.That's only because he complained about spending most of the time at the shopping complexes(WITH ME!*scoffs*) instead of going to other places.If you were me, you definitely cannot control the urge of shopping and from not entering the shops especially shops like Calvin Klein, Charles & Keith, Vincci, Nike, Nicole, Padini and the list goes on..Oh my godness..

(Promo sekajap)When i was in KK i was staying at Hotel Sadong.To all Bruneians, i highly recommend you this hotel.Excellent condition and good services.Most importantly, very hygienic.Strictly no bitches and yang sewaktu dengannya kehkehkeh..I think this is the only budget hotel in KK that has plasma tv(yg belakat di dinding ah).Im not sure if One Borneo Hotel got one hehe..One more thing i love KK:) but the food sucks except the Seafood Centre Restaurant(opposite the Warisan building).Their tea c special nothing could compares to our tea c special.Macam langit dengan bumi!But the last two days im in KK he brought me to dine in at a restaurant that served Penang dishes.Fuuh~Two thumbs up!Memang *sikda chelen.Next time if i go to KL i certainly wanna go to Penang and eat as much as i can wahaha..But then i have to discuss with my tourist guide first huhu..Beside i never been to Penang and i always wanted to go to Langkawi(package lah hehe).

To continue this story has inevitably make me sad.I missed all our moments together.Sigh..And if you can see on the left i've paste Neyo 'Part of the List' song lyric.Trust me i didn't paste this song for nothing.This songs from A-Z basically represent and describe everything;all the moment that we had and shared together.Everytime i listen to this song i remember him and us:'( The worst part has yet to come i.e. the departing time.Im going back to Brunei on Monday.On Sunday(my final night in KK)if im not mistaken he went out to play futsal.On that night alone i felt terribly sad because tomorrow he'd not gonna be around me anymore for the next day and the next and the list goes on.I told him what i felt, how sad i was.I did cried in front of him.Waah..Sedih eh!I told him im not even sure when will we ever meet again coz i know we both will be busy after this.He said to have faith in this relationship.He said got alot of plan and im part of it.Only God knows how much i love him and i knew i loved him before i met him..The next day,he kept on mumbled himself about me going back--in the car, at the restaurant etc.I just keep quiet(menahan rasa actually).After taking our lunch, we were heading to the KKA1.After we check in all my luggages, we lepak2 and chat.He did said this would be much worse than the last time.Not only him, but me too.But he felt much way terrible than me coz im the one who was leaving him, that's why he 'terasa' so much.He added for these few days we always go to places together and suddenly he went alone.It feels awkward and lonesome.Before i left he said i am the best thing that ever happened to him.Awww...In fact, he repeated that several times.Sigh...Miss him so much..During our last meeting i already told him that this year is his turn to pay a visit(we promise to take turn on visiting each other).All the entries about the LDR thingy before this was meant for him actually hohoho...Oops i spilled out the beans huhuhu...

Overall,nothing is impossible for you to achieve if only you believe.In every relationship, you have to practically trust your mate.Im not saying that our relationship will definitely gonna work but both of us are trying as best as we could to make it work.Nevertheless, instinctively, he is the one.Dear my soulmatey, i thank God that i found you coz your kind is an 'endangered species' and i thought you're already 'extinct'*lol* you know what i mean;) Saranghaeyo...May Allah bless our relationship always..Amin...

*sikda chelen -- tiada bandingannya

My anniversary gift..Thanks love:)

'Unexpected Treasure'??

Look at it for yourself..This is more than littering.What if tourists come to this place and see all this 'unexpected treasure'?Brunei Darussalam was ranked number six(or five) as the cleanliest city in Southeast Asia.The authorities should do something about it.How about the security?Makan gaji buta saja?This somehow sadden me.I love my country, i love Brunei Darussalam.Kerajaan sudah menyediakan tempat pembuangan sampah yang khas nda jua semua lagi menunggu titah HM baru tah kan membersihkan!HM pun banyak kraja jua kan dibuat, nda jua patut menunggu kedia turun padang lagi.Really gross, not to mention the smell.Yuck!I hope the manager or the owner of the building could do something about it.Sangat2 menyakitkan mata..

Good Ol Times:)

I was reorganising my folders this morning..on my lappy..as to make it more convenient for me in the future.As i gone through all the folders, of course i checked and re-read all my works when i was an undergraduate student back then hehehe..Here's my piece of work of Hangugmal(Korean Language).Sure thing, a lot of grammatical errors hahaha..But still, i wanna publish it here in my blog huhu..This short-compo is about my cousin.I have no idea on what to write.It was a must task that we gotta submit every two weeks.Guess what, i only submit two of em out of twelve(i think).Im not lazy(maybe a little hehe)..Korean Language is only an elective course and it's frickin easy to score and at the same time my schedule was tight with field trips+projects(what me and my colleagues would called 'minor thesis'.Im sure you get the main picture when i said 'thesis' only that it's minor huhu)+assignments+presentation=pressure.

So here's my short-compo about my cousin.Again, i know i made a lot of gramatical errors here hahaha..Why should i embarrass myself like this i don't even understand why huhuhu..I tell you what, it is good that you could master many different kinds of languages.It feels great!Why?Coz you can speak a language that others can't..It's kind of boring to speak English all the time huhu..God Willing, in the future i wanted to learn French.Learning Spanish is much easier than learning French.

Oh..Anyway...Here's my composition..

My Cousin

여행하는 걸 좋아합니다. 나는 내년 여행을 계획 말레이시아 내 앞에 수료식. 어머니가 나에게 티켓을 졸업하면 파리로 성공적으로. 이제 나는 오직 생각만 하고 싶은 일을 할 나의 수료식 계속 여부를 연구하거나 공부했습니다.

Korean is more or less the same with English Language, generally and is slightly different.How different?For instance:

English we say 'Hi, my name is....'

but


in Korean we say 'Hi, name is my..'(in translation)

'Annyong haseyo..Ne ireumeun....imnida'

E.g. Annyonghaseyo...Ne ireumeun Qisya imnida.



So it's quite complicated.Unlike English, they have formal/informal expression and greetings. -imnida is for formal expression and -isoyo for informal expression(both for making statement).For raising questions, it's -imnikka(formal) and -iyeyo(informal).

Do You Believe in Long Distance Relationship?

Have you been told that LDR or Long Distance Relationships don’t workout? Are you currently in a long distance relationship and find it difficult? Yes, a long distance relationship is hard but it’s not impossible!

Distance will not hurt a bond between two people that is based on mutual respect, trust, commitment and love. Although you may feel like losing faith in your relationship at times, hold fast and do trust your heart!

I truly believe that love and relationships are what make your life special, and that ones built on love and understanding are always worth preserving, regardless of the miles that may separate two people. :)

Making a long distance relationship work is extremely challenging. It requires patience, love, and lots of effort. Here are the lessons that I have learned that could help you make your long distance relationship work.

1. The most important thing you need to do is stay in communication while you are in your long distance relationship. Try talking on the phone or using instant messages or text messages on a regular basis.
2. Another great way to communicate is through video phone or webcam. Seeing your loved one face to face helps ease the pain of the long distance.
3. Yet another way to help your long distance relationship feel more intimate is to write each other love letters. They need not be fancy, they need only convey your feelings of love.
4. When you do get see each other, consider going someplace special and romantic where you two can be alone.
5. Try to remind each other that while your long distance relationship is temporary, your loving relationship is forever.
6. Surprise your mate by giving her/him a gift(This is what i normally do and i gave him the gift once we meet up.It sure does put a smile on his face)
7. Take a picture of everyday activities and send them to your mate.A picture is worth a thousand words and can help you and your mate feel closer together in your long distance relationship.With pictures, your mate can easily know what you are talking about when you describe, for instance, the new hairstyle that you just got. Some other examples of when you can take a picture are listed below:
   
   >New outfit that your have purchased.
   >Family or friends get together.
   >Changes to your bedroom.
   >Changes to your physical appearance (hairstyle, piercing, etc.)
8. Trusting your mate is the most fundamental in every relationship.Ideas of mistrust can easily seep into the minds of those involved in a long distance relationship because you don’t get to physically see your mate. They may be saying that they are not seeing anyone else, but how do you know that for sure hundreds or even thousands of miles away? This mistrust can ultimately lead to the relationship ending. You should approach the trust issue in a long distance relationship the same way as you would in a normal relationship. If there is no indication or evidence of cheating, it is most likely not happening.

REMEMBER
Love is the most essential ingredient in making a long distance relationship work.


TIPS & WARNING
When trying to make a long distance relationship work, your patience will be tested. But if your love is true, you can make it.


"And ever has it been that love knows not its own depth until the hour of separation."
--Kahlil Gibran

What is the Big Fuss About Valentine's Day?

It's February 14th again and today as known to the world is the Valentine's Day, the awaited day by most couples where on this day they share and express their love to one another and exchange gifts. On account of the occasssion too, the Hollywood film "Valentine's Day", starring Julia Roberts, was banned here following recent warnings from religious leaders declaring that "Valentine's Day is not for Muslim because it encouraged 'promiscuous activity" mainly among the teenagers. So, whats the big fuss about this Valentine's Day?If you read further then you'll know.To all teenagers out there, it is not our custom and against our belief to celebrate this occassion.Go hit the book instead of wandering at the malls.It eventually sores the eye of the eldest.

History of Valentine's Day

Historians trace the origin of Valentine's Day to ancient Roman Empire. It is said that in the Rome of ancient times people observed a holiday on February 14th to honor Juno - the Queen of Roman Gods and Goddesses. The Romans also regarded Juno as the Goddess of Women and Marriage. On the following day, February 15th began the fertility festival called 'Feast of Lupercalia'. The festival of Lupercalia was celebrated to honor the Gods Lupercus and Faunus - the Roman God of Agriculture besides the legendary founders of Rome, Romulus and Remus.

An interesting custom was followed in the Feast of Lupercalia to bring together young boys and girls who otherwise were strictly separated. On the eve of the festival names of young Roman girls were written on a slip of paper and placed into jars. Each young man drew out a girl's name from the jar and was paired with the girl for the duration of Lupercalia. Sometime pairing lasted for a year until next year's celebration. Quite often, the couple would fall in love with each other and later marry. The custom lasted for a long time until people felt that the custom was un-Christian and that mates should be chosen by sight, not luck.

Defiance by Saint Valentine

The pairing of young boys and girls did set the mood of the Valentine's Day Festival as we know today. But it was actually due to the efforts and daring of a priest St Valentine that the festival got its name and clearer meaning. The story goes that during the reign of Emperor Claudius II Rome was involved in several bloody and unpopular campaigns. Claudius found it tough to get soldiers and felt the reason was men did not join army because they did not wish to leave their wives and families. As a result Claudius cancelled all marriages and engagements in Rome. A romantic at heart priest of Rome Saint Valentine defied Claudius's unjustified order. Along with Saint Marius, St Valentine secretly married couples. When his defiance was discovered, Valentine was brutally beaten and put to death on February 14, about 270 AD. After his death Valentine was named a Saint.

According to another version of legend Valentine was killed because he attempted to help Christians escape from the Roman prison as they were being tortured and beaten there. Yet another popular version of the legend states that while in prison Valentine or Valentinus fell in love with jailer's daughter who visited him during confinement. Before his death Valentine wrote a farewell letter to his sweetheart from the jail and signed ‘From your Valentine'. The expression became quite popular amongst love struck and is still very much in vogue.

By the Middle Ages, Valentine assumed the image of heroic and romantic figure amongst the masses in England and France. Later, when Christianity spread through Rome, the priests moved Lupercalia from February 15 to February 14. Around 498 AD, Pope Gelasius declared February 14 as St. Valentine's Day to honor the martyr Valentinus and to end the pagan celebration.